Ugh. I'm sorry you were trapped in that cycle. I think I was only saved from that by circumstance - graduating from college, moving out of that city, etc.
Spending that much time sick really sucks, both in terms of the time spent sick, but also the long-ranging impacts after figuring out what was happening.
Trying to find rl friends and things in my mid-30s has proven really difficult for exactly that reason: most people around my age already have pretty strong social groups. Relationships in my 20s were a mess, and a lot of those people I had to just cut ties with. I'm glad I did so, but it's also tough to find and make connections now.
SOOOO many "welcoming and accepting" spaces have been closed off for whatever reason. Lots of invisible gatekeeping or the bad-boundary issues we mentioned earlier. It sucks.
Exactly. I'm good with weird, and even the weird that's too weird for me personally I can almost always look at with a "you do you" attitude. But NOT when it comes with the lack of physical/emotional boundaries and that expectation of being catered to. Nope, nope, nope.
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Spending that much time sick really sucks, both in terms of the time spent sick, but also the long-ranging impacts after figuring out what was happening.
Trying to find rl friends and things in my mid-30s has proven really difficult for exactly that reason: most people around my age already have pretty strong social groups. Relationships in my 20s were a mess, and a lot of those people I had to just cut ties with. I'm glad I did so, but it's also tough to find and make connections now.
SOOOO many "welcoming and accepting" spaces have been closed off for whatever reason. Lots of invisible gatekeeping or the bad-boundary issues we mentioned earlier. It sucks.
Exactly. I'm good with weird, and even the weird that's too weird for me personally I can almost always look at with a "you do you" attitude. But NOT when it comes with the lack of physical/emotional boundaries and that expectation of being catered to. Nope, nope, nope.