Yeah, I do realize that craft stuff is going to fall more to the femme side than the masc, but it still feels weird for it to be SO dramatic. I could get a 75-25 split, but 99.9-.01 is... super out of whack.
(It also feels... idk, extra wrong, because I want queer spaces to feel a lot less binary than this makes them feel. Not because masc and femme aren't genuine categories, and not because women and men cease to be women and men just because they're queer... but having places only have things that fall very far to one side feels like it's just... a new box. Most of the queer people I know have interests that fall all over the place when it comes to how those interests are "typically gendered", and queer spaces would be where I'd want to see that NOT be treated as weird. I feel like I'm making my point clumsily, but I hope you get what I'm saying.)
The way trans men or otherwise trans masc people (and to an extent other masc queers, like butch lesbians or masc cis gay men...) tend to always be given the short straw, and are pushed aside is... really terrible. I keep seeing it, and I am so sorry it's something that's so widespread.
Intracommunity ~discourse~ is fucking toxic, and this idea that "men cannot be oppressed, therefore trans men cannot be, and masculinity is always a source of societal privilege" is extremely reductive and misses the actual experience of so many people. Worse, it DOES bring about such an aggro response to even TRY to discuss this sort of thing, which just shuts things down before they can even start, and is antithetical to having a healthy and inclusive wider community.
Building things and supporting them is SO much more positive and productive than dealing with endless discourse about who "deserves" space. I want more spaces to exist that welcome more people, and I'm sorry that so few are what they should be.
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(It also feels... idk, extra wrong, because I want queer spaces to feel a lot less binary than this makes them feel. Not because masc and femme aren't genuine categories, and not because women and men cease to be women and men just because they're queer... but having places only have things that fall very far to one side feels like it's just... a new box. Most of the queer people I know have interests that fall all over the place when it comes to how those interests are "typically gendered", and queer spaces would be where I'd want to see that NOT be treated as weird.
I feel like I'm making my point clumsily, but I hope you get what I'm saying.)
The way trans men or otherwise trans masc people (and to an extent other masc queers, like butch lesbians or masc cis gay men...) tend to always be given the short straw, and are pushed aside is... really terrible. I keep seeing it, and I am so sorry it's something that's so widespread.
Intracommunity ~discourse~ is fucking toxic, and this idea that "men cannot be oppressed, therefore trans men cannot be, and masculinity is always a source of societal privilege" is extremely reductive and misses the actual experience of so many people. Worse, it DOES bring about such an aggro response to even TRY to discuss this sort of thing, which just shuts things down before they can even start, and is antithetical to having a healthy and inclusive wider community.
Building things and supporting them is SO much more positive and productive than dealing with endless discourse about who "deserves" space. I want more spaces to exist that welcome more people, and I'm sorry that so few are what they should be.