olivermoss | (Reply)

It's really annoying that the split seems so omnipresent! It does feel like a really reductive box to push a lot of people into, when it seems like it would be low-risk, possibly high-reward to offer at least a FEW additional options. (Or seems that way to me, though obviously I'm not there or running these businesses and events.)
Though also true: queer + femme could be a LOT of different stuff... Why is it too much to ask to have something that isn't pastels + suggestive looking fruit or yet another wink-wink-it's-scissors-get-it design? Like... that stuff is FINE, but it's not what I'm looking for. I like girls, but I'd rather have a mothman butt too, frankly. :(

The aggro response to ANY criticism of the community is... exhausting. If you can only keep up the "everything is fine, everyone is welcome, we all get along perfectly and are so mutually supportive" attitude if you ALSO forcibly exclude everyone who dares mention that they don't feel fine/welcome/supported... then you're just making the problems worse.
Yes, the community as a whole has to deal with a lot of bad-faith shit, and there are people who try to troll these spaces with outrageous demands in the hopes of creating ragebait, and there are people who are just shit-stirrers, and there are national political concerns that are very real...

But chucking out multiple demographics as a whole (and dismissing ALL of the members who dare complain as just having individual problems) is NOT the way to improve anything for anyone.